Wednesday, November 6, 2013

But you're so young!

If you were around last week, I shared where we're getting married and our colors! This week, I had every intention of writing another planning post, but let's be honest, it's been a month and I really don't have too much planned. Plus, we've got another 11 months to go, so I don't want to bore you, yet!

Today, I wanted to share why I'm getting married. That might sound a little weird, but I've had so many comments such as this: 

"YOU'RE getting married?! But you're so young?!" 

"But, you have so much life ahead of you, why get married now?"

"Why rush it? You should have a long engagement!" 

So let's dive right in, shall we?

Yes, we're young. We'll be 23 and 24 when we say "I do". I think this was the hardest part for his parents because they were married when they were about 30 and I've had his mom tell me before that there's no need to get married early. This was years ago, and I know she's happy for us, now, but her sentiment has been echoed by plenty. 

My parents were married when my mom was 21 and dad was almost 25, so I see our ages as completely normal. Sure, my parents experienced growing pains in the beginning as they grew together, but they've been married 25 years now, so obviously it's not the worst decision in the world. 

It's my opinion that if I know I'm going to be spending the rest of my life with someone, then what's the point of waiting? We've been together for 3 years and it'll be 4 when we finally get married so obviously we've been together long enough to know. I actually knew a long time ago that he's who I wanted to be with forever. 

Then there's the comment about having so much ahead of us... Yeah, we do. We both have plans and goals and things we want to accomplish. And there's no one I would rather have by my side while I do these things than Christian. Getting married isn't going to stop us from accomplishing these things. In fact, I think it will help us accomplish them! 

When I picture our lives together, I know we can reach all of our goals together. I see us raising beautiful kids together and growing old together. Once Christian and I started dating, I couldn't see any of these things without him by my side. And don't worry, we plan to wait quite awhile before kiddos start arriving!

I've mentioned before how I'm feeling about my job right now, and Christian is so supportive and tries to keep my head up and keep me motivated. He reassures me that everything is going to be okay and I will find something I love. Whenever I feel overwhelmed and discouraged, he is right there to pick me up. 

I've been guilty of thinking someone is "too young" to get married.. and honestly, I still think those in college (and definitely high school - yes this happened in my hometown) should wait. You do a lot of growing and changing in college and I think everyone needs to experience that in their own way. Christian and I both experienced part of college single and then found each other, so I feel like we got the best of both worlds. 

Christian is my rock. There are a lot of things I wouldn't have made it through without him by my side and I look forward to a lifetime of love and support from him. And I plan to push him towards his dreams, as well. I already think of him as my family and I can't wait to make it official in 347 days!

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Unknown said...

Congratulations!!! Your ring is GORGEOUS! I was married at 23, because I knew that I was ready, and I wouldn't trade that for the world. Spending every day of this crazy journey with my best friend by my side is exactly how I want to spend my life. Your happiness is all that matters... you are so lucky to have found such an incredible love. This is only the beginning!

Miranda said...

Good for you for standing up for yourself and your relationship. When you know it's right, there's no other reason to believe it's wrong. You guys are going to have a long, healthy matter how young you are! Good luck with the planning! :)

Pleas(e) and Carrots said...

My mom was 19 when she got married and now my parents have been married for almost 27 years! Good for you for doing what is right for you guys!!

Becky said...

I'm so happy for you guys and I'm glad you found each other! Who cares what age it was at?! My best friend will be 23 when she gets married. She told me before they even started dating that she was going to marry him haha.

Also, just on the marriage topic, have you seen this article?! . Don't get tricked by the title!

Erin LFF said...

We were 23 and 24 when we got married too! I think anytime after college is good for anyone :) Like you said, yes you have tons of life ahead of you.... but of course you want your BFF by your side! That's how I feel!: )